Monday, August 4, 2008

'Blame game' - Lessons from shaving

'There is some problem for sure' - This is what am saying to myself.....

Its friday morning....... Its 7:00 AM........... i have already put in two rounds of 'shaving cream' on my face and am fiddling around with the shaving brush to generate the lather, so that I can have a smooth shave......

But interestingly for the first time i am facing a 'unique' problem..... I have already applied more than sufficient cream on the face/brush, but still no lather has been generated...... I add additional water thinking that may be some foam would be generated, but it goes in vain.... Now i start thinking, may be 'shaving cream' has expired, i look up at the tube to see if i can spot the manufacturing/expiry date, but cannot spot.... I am still amazed as to why no lather is being generated.... Now i think, may be the shaving brush has become ineffective in doing its 'rightful job' - rationalizing to myself that may be since i have been using the brush for more than year, the bristles must have weakened and the cream must have dipped down to the bottom of the brush and thereby there is no cream on the top of the brush...So i gaze on the brush, but again to my dismay, the brush is looking fine and is just looks the way it usually looks....

Now i dont know whats gone wrong, i think there is some problem in either the shaving cream or the shaving brush......

I dont wanna think more and find the out where the problem lies...So i decide to live with the problem for now i.e. (in this case, a non-lather generatng cream)...
So i apply the cream (of course no lather and foam) and start shaving with the razor...

As I shave, I turn my head to the right side of my face, that i suddenly spot my Gillete Shaving Gel...

"Huh"... This is what am saying to myslef....

I now realize that i had not been using my Gillete Shaving gel but rather i was applying Brylcream anti-dandruff cream on my face....
I now immediately wash of my shaving brush and my face.. I apply the Gillete shaving cream on my face/brush and now apply water, sufficent lather is generated and i am so relieved that i am having a smooth shave....

The whole of the above mentioned episode must not have lasted more than a few minutes.....
But i gave a little thought to the whole incident and i guess, i had some interesting thoughts that came on to my mind.... I actually felt that there were interesting lessons that I could decipher out of it:

Firstly, I was looking around in spotting where was the problem lying....I have already externalized the problem from myself 'was there a problem with the shaving cream or may be some problem with the shaving brush'.So i was actually looking for problem 'outside'

Secondly, I had actually concluded that there is some problem elsewhere, unable to spot the problem (thereby not able to rectify it), i decide to live with the problem (in this case to continue shaving with hair cream)

Thirdly, i had initially made the wrong choice of picking up the Brylcream rather than the Gillete cream (both were next to each other on the rack above the wash basin)... I never at any point during my problem identification stage (in this case trying to spot why the cream was not generating lather) did i actually give a thought if i had actually made a wrong choice or if there were any mistake that I had done from my end...

Well, After my shaving I actually sat down and pondered over how interesting this small (apparently insignificant) episode actually made a lot of sense and is for sure significant in actually teaching me quite a few lessons.


After all, its all about choices.....

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Travel to Malsej Ghats

Scratching his head, the answer came out in a lousy voice 'Kya?'- asked the conductor....I had just asked - 'Bhaiya, Ek ticket - Malsej Ghat ke liye?'..... 'Malsej Ghat - wahaan pe kya..?' - the conductor asks again... Well, i am a little confused. Well... I just know that I had to go to Malsej Ghats and I had taken the print outs from the net which said that just board a bus from Kalyan station and you could head towards Malsej Ghats.. Well..here i am...boarded the bus..... asking for a ticket Malsej Ghats and the conductor says where.... Am a little puzzled, for the i did check if the bus was going in to Malsej Ghats... Seeing me puzzled, one of the co-passenger chipped in...He said, 'arey bhai.. u want to go and stay there? You are referring to the holiday camp'..' Oh yeah' - i said.. of course, i was referring to the MTDC resort which is there....Of course i did plan to stay over night there...Then the co-passenger explained to me ' You see, this bus goes through the jungle and the Ghat section and there is nothing in Malsejh but for the MTDC resort. Btb- have you done the booking he asked'. Well, i said ' sir, not yet..but am not worrying'... He retorted ' Beta - there is nothing around. You will not find any other place there. What will you do? Is there anyone along with you?'. 'Hmmmm...Not to worry sir. I am alone and i will find a way out...Worst come basis, i would have to return in night and i dont mind doing that as the last resort'.... Though i boldly said that, there was indeed a slight feeling, 'whats gonna be my alternative arrangement?'.... Now the conductor was back after his rounds and asked me 'ticket for where' and i said clearly 'MTDC Camp - Malsej Ghats'... He said ' 62 Rs'... I pulled my wallet and passed on a 100 re note, and the conductor asked for change. Now, when i started looking deeply into my wallet, what i saw next was a complete bouncer, that threw me out of my mind.... I was shell shocked when i discovered that i had only 320rs in all in my wallet and here I am shelling out 62 rs to go to Malsej... I am completely taken aback on sensing this reality.....

Here i am, now have only 250 rs + few chillar.... I need to have my dinner, need to stay over night, need to have break fast and lunch and finally more importantly need to return back to Mumbai.... I immediately check with my co-passenger 'Is there an ATM there?'... 'Beta - there is one 60kms in the other side of the hill'. I am completely thrown over. I cant get down, for we are already in NH 222 entering the Ghats......

There are two options that are striking me - One is to just get down immediately and secondly - lets see what lies ahead.... Kuch tho hoyega..... There will be a way out.... With this 'nervous' thought in mind, i cajole myself 'advenuture time underway'..... so i just calm myself down and peep outside the window...

As i saw the rustic villages out of the window, i was just recollecting the sequence of events that unfolded through the day which actually influenced me to stay back in the bus and proceed towards Malsej.

The Malsej trip over the weekend started out as a fallout of a team outing which was planned to go for Matheran. But since Matheran was a place where a couple of us had been, Malsej was a new find which one of my collegue found out and let me knew. I was a little kicked when i read through in the Maharashtra tourism web site. So we were trying to mobilize a small group for the trip, but that was in vain. But some how, the reading in the site and my personal interest to go in for a nature expedition dint dampen my spirit. So i did put in some efforts in mobilizing certain kind of crowd for the trip from my friends circle, but that too went in vain. Some how, i made up my mind and went upto CST station and decided to board the train to Kalyan, so that i can sit comfortably and go. As I boarded the train, there were continous calls coming in.
Calls from my PMIR batchmates, SW friends, school mate and my sister.... Each of these calls i have been telling them that I am going to Malsej Ghats - all alone (yes, it is a concious decision which just happened).....

So now that I had told each and all with whom I have been saying am off to Malsej, how can I just back down ... And that too - giving a reason that I am in dearth of money.... i have 250 rs in my pocket.... I knew, that yeah... thats sufficient enough if you work you way out properly... So giving the explanation to myself, i started gazing around the beauty which was just becoming evident... The bus takes up sharp turns and the village scene disappears and the scenes of hilly landscapes prop u.... The bus has started moving upwards... There is beauty emerging in style.... Each time the buses turns and the road opens itself to the other side of the hill, one gets to see the tall huge moutain ranges wwith clouds clearly covering the peaks and the scene in itself brings a great amount of joy.... There are also small little waterfalls which can not only be seen from the windowns of the bus, but interestingly there sare small waterfalls such that the buses ply through the waterfalls in the road. This is indee quite an new experience that waterfalls fall on the road, and people just park their car on the road and just enjoy the falls on the road freely.....
As i experience these sights, time also flies by... well its about two and half hours already travelled in the bus that suddenly my co-passenger tells me 'Arey - get down here. This is where you got to go.' Point me to the building he shows that it is the MTDC resort....
Am all excited that I have actually made to up to the place where i wanted to be... But what next...... With rejuvenated energy and zeal, i get down from the bus and head straight towards the resort... Its a wonderfuly located resort at the edge of the cliff giving a panoromic view of the landscape..... There are abt 17 self contained blocks in the resort and i headed straight to the reception and checked out if there were any room. There were a couple available but each were charged over 450 rs. This is when that reality bites... I asked if there were cheaper alternatives. And the receptionist said there were none and this could not be negotiated, for this is a govt resort. I pleaded showing my sorry state of affairs and was asking him for alternatives. But my effort was futile, he just blatantly refused to listen to my plea. I headed towards the security person. Showed him my wallet and told him of my story of lack of money and asked for help. That security gaurd, Santosh, said that 2 km down the road there is a small village and there there is a possibility of cheaper options and i could get one for 100 odd rupees. I thanked him for his suggestion, but also told him that in case i dint get one, i would be heading straight to his place and i would be staying with him over night.
I followed the advise of the security guard of MTDC and headed for stroll at 7 30 PM in the night towards the Village. There i spotted 'Nisarg Lodge'. It was indeed one sada hua lodge and the most expensive room costed 250 rs. However, i asked for other alternatives. The owner showed me a room in the first floor and said it would cost me 15o rs. BUt i negotiated saying that i will pay only 100 rs. We struck the deal/I pay him the 100 rs and i now have a place to stay over night. I was in the wonderful place - Nisarg loge, with a 100 rs/night room, which has one straw mat with cushion and pillow on top of it. The room also houses a water puddle in the corner and has a small light buld though there is no fan.... However, must say, that i was extremely glad ... i heaved a big sigh of relief.... i just kept my bag in the corner, locked my room and stepped out at 8 pm......
It now started drizzling quite heavily... It has to - shouldnt it, after all it is monsoon time and that too am in the hills.... However, the ill prepared crack that iam, wasnt carrying any weather protection yantra.. however, with the pleasant talking skills (probably, the gift of the gap which just saves me all the time - Thank you God), i lend a umbrella from the lodge owner and go out for a walk in the rains in the night... It was indeed a wonderful experience to walk in the rain in the hills with mind you 150 rs in the pocket..... As it was quite windy and was raining too, the umbrella was of little use in protecting me, for eventullay, the lower half of my body was indeed getting wet... So after a short stoll i headed back to the 'room' - if i may call it... With 150 rs left, what can i even afford to have.. Skip my dinner (again - Thank you God, my stomuch has in general not posed much problems in most times my will power over comes the power of stomuch calls)... I doze of after listeing to some nice classical devotional music from my mobile....
Its 5 AM in the morning and after a very long time heard the cock's wake up call...however, after a short wakep up, doze back again and get up all fresh after some time... I knew some time back it was 5, but i now dint know what was the time.... Becuase, i dint wear a watch and i was using my mobile as a clock, but since the battery in my mobile had conked off, had no clue what was the time... . I head straight to the loo... Well must say, did spend quite a considerable amount of time to ensure that the internal sceptic tank is clean for the last 18 hours, I have just not done it... And also, not sure what lies ahead. So had to make the most of the opportunity and thus put in all force and energy to do the needful. Having done that, just cleaned up myself and prepared my self to start off for the day... Said a bye to the lodge owner for the 'comfortable stay' overnight, asked for what the time was - 7 30 am it was and i left... I also made up my mind that i will not ask anyone what the time is... There was no watches a few centurie back and people still had a comfortable living... So i decided to not know the time till i reach Kalyan.. Just gauge with the sun movements (if i at all i can spot the sun, for its monsoon time and am in the hills)...... So here I am, all set to explore the Ghats with nature guiding me...

Start off where...? That was indeed the question which came up..Logically also.... I of course did have the net prinouts which said, what all to be seen in Malsej Ghats... So ask the near by villagers.. How do i go to Harishchandragarh, Kshireshwar, Shivneri Fort, Bhimashankar etc etc...... What will i do is never a question, for any new place always brings about excitement... But the question was how will i go and all the more importanly how much will it cost for me to go there...... With 150 rs in pocket, i cant have the cake and eat it too.... I had made up my mind, that i shall reserve 100 rs for my return trip and i will not touch that money at any cost, for the only thing certain was that i had to go back by evneing.... On finding out the only certain things that came out was that... all these places where quite distant from each other...and people in general commute by thier personal mode, else poor ppl like me resort to the hiring jeeps, which costs not less that 400 rs... And where wil that money come from, given that i have only 50 rs that i can afford to where ever i need to go....

So after clear delibrations and understaing made up my mind to go to Shivneri fort which is a good place for trekking and hiking.... So i came on to the road and asked for guidance and route/commute assistance. Thankfully, one lorry driver accepted to give me lift. He asked me to pay 25 rs for the trip and i negotiated to him saying that he is asked me too much. He retorted 'Saheb, aapko pata hai, Shivneri kahaan hai? Raasta Kaisa hai? '.. I put my head down and said no.... Then i said..' Teekh hai - i shall give you 20 rs'.... It was a one hour journey in the lorry, passing through 3 hills and passing through the ghats... It was a thoroughly enjoyable ride with a few villagers joining me as co-passengers in the lorry. After an hour, the lorry halted in a village called Junnar.... Junnar was at the basement of Shivneri. Now i had to walk up for 3 kms before i reached the foothills of Shivneri.... Now the early morning blues were also troubling my parched throat and belly... Thankfully, the one sane thing i did while i left was to ensure that i carry a bottle of water, which i had refilled in my 'place of stay - Nisarg lodge'. But to fill in my stomuch, i went into a kirana shop and asked for two packets of Parle G biscuits. After all that is the cheapest source of energy. When the shop keeper gave me asking for 8 rs. I was a little taken aback. For now i have only 130 rs left of which 100 i had reserved it for my return journey. .. So 30 is all i have and i cant afford to spend out 8 rs... So i return back one of the packets of Parle and 'shell out' 4 rs...... The value of each penny counts.....
Taking in the biscuit, i walk along, there were vehicles plying by. I was posing my hands seeking lift... Finally, there was a private auto which was heading upwards... I boarded and asked him to take... I happily was going that he suddenly stopped and said -'Aap right mein jaaiye and 5 re dijiye'...Well, he was actually charging me for his drop..... So did part off my 5 rs ot him and started walking upwards....
In high spirits, with bag on my back, started trodding on the path along slide the road.... It was a small trek for a km till the foot hills of the shivneri fort. Shivneri fort is the birth place of Chatrapathi Shivaji Maharaj, the great Maratha warrior. The fort also houses all his childhood times. With an historical bent and nature at its best, began to walk along the various gates of the ancient fort.... .Walk a while, stop, click a few pictures, take rest and again walk.... this continued for the next couple of hours, till i went to the place where is the exact location of Shivaji's birth place. The place hosts the cradle the Mother Jijamata used for her child alongside the statue of Shivaji and a potrait of Jijamata.... I had always seen buses in Mumbai with nameboard as Jijamata Udyan, but never did i know that Jijamata was actually the mother for Shivaji... So that was GK news for me... There were quite a few visitors from near by villages coming in there and paying respect to thier erstwhile leader/protector - Shivaji Maharaj. Well the respect for him is just so evident once you visit this place...

After spending some time and clicking pictures, decided to move back.... Kep walking back till the foothill and now decided that i should have some intake, else its not good.. But now i have only 121 rs left (including the 100 which i reserved for my return travel). So with 21rs of spendable money, i decided to have a Neembu Sharbat worth rs. 5. This Sharbat was the like elixr for life. After that, walked back till the base of the bill. Since i cannot afford for another paid ride, was asking for lift and thankfully, one local villager was going in his moped towards Junnar and he gladly obliged to drop me to the central point in the village.
The moped kaka himself advised me that i should be taking a jeep to Bankar Pada which would be a good ride through the hilly village and from there I could catch a bus to Kalyan which would go through Malsej Ghats.... As soon i reached the central point, looked around what was available to gobble.. Spotted a road side shop and had a vada pav for Rs 3. It was one of the best 'dishes' i have ever had... It was so fulfilling that could not be replaced by the best of the restaurants in Mumbai.Having the vada paw in my right had, and water bottle in the left hand, i was asking for lift to BankarPada (was still trying if i could get a free ride)... However,no one obliged... Finally i had to shed out 10 rs for the Jeep ride which went past the rustic villages ... On finally reaching Bankar Pada, had to give out 10 rs for the ride..... Parting away 10 rs could just prove to be expensive... But then I had to.. Now i had 112 rs left in all.... Decided that i just cant afford to spend on any further travel, but for getting back to Mumbai....

So kept waiting in Bankar Pada for quite some time, that a bus from Ahmed Nagar to Kalyan came in... Boarded in and went to the last seat and finally when the conductor came in, i opened up my wallet and showed to the conductor and said ' Bhaiyaa - this is al i have (had 112rs)... Now tell me how much does a ticket to Kalyan cost?'. He said well, its 95 rs only.... Heaved a sign of relief, happily parted the money, got the tickets, took up the window seat and gazed all the wonderful sights as i made my way down to the foohills and then to Kalyan..... Finally, when I reached Kalyan Station, found out that the time was 3 10 PM...

Indeed a wonderful and a memorable trip... Thousand thanks to Vilwadri Perippa, for beyond doubt he was the inspiration for me during my night stay at Nisarg lodge...... Ever eager for experiences which always brings in new and diverse perspectives.....

Saturday, July 12, 2008

N Deal and Karpman's Triangle

Was watching THE BIG FIGHT on NDTV yesterday. Incidentally it was not on the Aarushi murder case but on much talked of (may be hyped) Nuclear Deal.
As expected the panelists were from Congress, BJP, Samajwadi Party and CPI (M).
Listening to the delibrations, just reminded me of the Karpman's triangle that I learnt in conflict mgmt class. Just to get my basics right, i did a google on Karpman's triangle and and thought of fiddling around with the current context.

VICTIM- Congress - "Poor Me"
Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed
Looks for a Rescuer (in the form of Left) that will perpetuate their negative feelings.
If stays in Victim position, will block self from making decisions, solving problems, pleasure and self-understanding.
"Dejected" stance.
PERSECUTOR- BJP - "It's All Your Fault"
Sets strict limits unnecessarily.
Blames
Criticizes
Keeps Victim oppressed
Rigid, authoritative stance
"Critical" Parent
RESCUER- Left - "Let Me Help You 'superficially' " (Example - Left Congress N Deal coordination committee)
Rescues when really doesn't want to.
Keeps victim dependent.
Gives permission to fail.
Expects to fail in rescue attempts.
"Superficial" Parent

Actually, all the three players thrive on conflicts. Collaboration holds the key, but all the stakeholder's have their own interests and no common interests. And these players just keep changing positions as per ther interests.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Challenging HR Projects for Interns

Written after due diligence. Extremely Challenging ;)

Project Title: Benchmarking resourcing practices and streamlining internal processes
Project Brief:Comprehensive study of resourcing practices in all consulates of the various embassies in India. The report should strictly deal with how the embassies recruit only and should have any reference to any internal resourcing practices in the organization
Key learning: Complete understanding of resourcing in the market
Expectation from Intern/ MT: To work on own and to not expect anything


Project Title: Increasing employee engagement in the organization
Project Brief:Understand how the compounder in the clinic is more committed to his doctor and how a joker is more committed to his circus, thus understanding the cognitive and emotive drivers of commitment and thereby reworking on the employee engagement model with suggestions for organizing different parties based on the model
Key Learning: Increased academic excellence in mainstream psychology
Expectation from Intern/ MT: Yearn to learn more on psychology


Project Title: Critical analysis of the existing PMS and its statistical correlation with bonus pay out
Project Brief:Quantitative analysis of the usage of performance management system in the organization and the equivalent bonus paid out to 'top' performers in the organization thus corroborating that the potential/performance of an employee is rightly captured
Key Learning: Usage of statistical tools
Expectation from Intern/ MT: Makes no judgments and opinions


Project Title: Making a diverse and all inclusive organization
Project Brief:Detailed brochures of the various programs and initiatives that can be organized in the organization to ensure that women join the organzation and remain in the organization. This however should consider the approval of senior management (all male) of the company.
Key Learning: Increased gender consciousness within
Expectation from Intern/ MT: Have no biasness and to work with sincerity


Project Title: Remodeling the compensation structure in the organziation
Project Brief:Extensive study of budget proposals and ensuring that the compensation structure is modelled in a way to provide maximum benefit to the government, by making each employee pay huge taxes and thus making the organization a socially responsible corporate and thus increasing the organization’s CSR ratings
Key Learning: Tax laws in India
Expectation from Intern/ MT: Excel skills. Work, work and work.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

This Week ...That Year....

Summer of 2008

Reminding of the golden last 3 years...

THIS WEEK.............
Its about a year since that we became post graduates.
Its about a year since we entered into the corporate world (for few of us, back to the corporate world)
Its about a year since that we are being perceived by 'junta' as MBA professionals
Its about a year since that as HR professionals we are involved in tactical and strategical activities in our organization

However, it is about a year back, around the same time, that we had our grand convocation ceremony...............

It was that wonderful day when we had the pride when we saw our dear batchmates receive awards & certificates from the VP of India and other dignitaries
It was that wonderful day that we all came back with a lot of zeal and joy that we are meeting back each other after the month long 'block' FW
It was on the wonderful day that many of us got to meet each others parents/family/friends probably for the first time and share pleasantries
It was on that wonderful day when emotions were sinking in and we cajoled each other by saying that we would anyway be in touch with each other

However, it is about two years back, around the same time that we were in the midst of our summer internships...........
It was that wonderful time when we were trying to justify with the other "would be MBA professionals" explaining what it means to be a HR professional
It was that wonderful time when we trying to justify to the new found corporate colleagues what TISS is
It was that wonderful time when we got corroborate the PPT talks in campus and the actual work in the organization and know the reality
It was that wonderful time when we just longed more & more that we get done with internship soon and get back to the most wonderful campus in the world

However, its about three years back, around the same time ..............
It was that time by when most of us had digested with the CAT/XAT/MAT/RAT/BAT/Other entrance exam scores that we had got
It was that time when TISS admissions where yet to happen and it was one of the other options
It was that time of the year when most of us contemplating "What next"
It was that time of the year when we did not know each other

Uffffffff................ I am speaking of summers 2005, while this is summers 2008.....................

Saturday, January 5, 2008

Obituary to a lost posession(rather obsoession)

Straight from the heart of an eMpTy mind ;)

After serving me in the best of my times as well tough times for close to two and half year, my nokia mobile, which was indeed connecting me, decided to change its master...
Thus it pushed itself out of my pant pocket, with a little jerk from the hands of some guy and landed in the hands of a extremely fortunate man... Presume, that soul had plans of making a fotune out of that mobile....But if my market estimate is right, for the wonderful condition that it was in, It should be fetch anything close to 400 rs (four hundred rupees - really).. So thats fortune indeed may be....

Lost my mobile in the central railways local train while getting down ......

Well... a little sad, that i lost my prized possesion... one that i got in the early days of TISS life... well i dint have one when i was an IT labourer for a year though, but since time and space was distancing me from my near and dear in chennai, had to get one when i started doing my PG in mumbai.

And now after so much of usage, the mobile which has ineed been through the tough times of July rain fall in 2005, drowned in orrisa floods, dipped in rasam container in kitchen, .....
Tolerated the wind, sunshine, cold and all the climatic conditions.... it was indeed worn out.... has prompted me to write this obituary mail....

I would have anyway parted with that beaten away mobile of mine.... but some fortunate guy in Badlapur slow local at 9 pm on a saturday evening probably wanted to experiment with the antique peice.

Providence - it may be called... :)

A little sad that i lost the 400 rs worth possesion (Was woth abt 4000 wen i got, one sada hua model ).....but more sad that i have lost all contacts.. the dumbo that i have become after doing MBA (Mediocre but arrogant)... dont remember any number.... but for very few ones... so thats the pain that i have indeed lost contacts and numbers......

Only yesterday, Anil Ambani was saying yesterday in the NDTV Profit,
"Apart from Roti Kapda, Makaan - Power and Mobile - are also the new necessities of life" He was telling in the conext, for ADAG has power and reliance communcations as its businesses..
i was just thinking how necessities are superimposed and creatd.. and was just thinking how attachd we have become to mobile...and all such noble thoughts..
and phew..... within 24 hrs, i have lost mine .............

So thats the status quo as of now...
I have kind of conciously thought of not getting a new one for some time...just to lead life in normal without a mobile... though the very thought in itself kind of literally scares me off, given the 'social' person i am :)

However, let me see, how long i can be without the same... a day or two.. hopefully, at least a week i should achieve..
would be reachable at 022 - 67063863, office desk no. shud be reachable generally from
9 30 am - 5 30 pm..... generally dont work late (for me late hours is till 6 30 pm) ....
Or may be you cud just give missed call at the rest of the time and i shall call back, for it does have an number display facility....as ever would be prompt in mails... especially in my official id.. ramanathan.v@db.com

Anil dude - let me see how far you are right ......... Have taken the challenge...
We indeed can connect...
After all connecting people is about connecting and not showing that we also connect.....
Isnt it.... :)